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A toast needs three things: a quick introduction, one short story or quality and a last line that asks everyone to raise a glass. Keep the whole thing positive and aim for two to three minutes.
Tie what you say to the occasion. Lean toward sentiment at a wedding and toward nostalgia when someone retires.
| Term |
Meaning |
| Opening |
Your name and how you know the person you’re toasting. |
| Story |
One kind story or quality that everyone can follow. |
| Last line |
An invitation to raise a glass and drink. |
| Length |
Two to three minutes from start to finish. |
Toasts usually come once drinks are poured, at the start of the meal or just before dessert. A toast then follows six small steps.
| Step |
What to do |
| Get attention |
Stand, lift your glass or wait quietly until people notice. Don’t bang on a glass. |
| Stand and lift your glass |
Stand to signal the start. At a small, informal meal, you can stay seated. |
| Opening |
Say your name and how you know the person you’re toasting. |
| Story |
Tell one short, kind story or describe one positive quality. |
| Last line |
Raise your glass and invite everyone to join you: “To Sam.” |
| Everyone drinks |
Everyone except the person being toasted takes a sip. |
| Field |
Text |
| Identify by |
The first sentence after the room goes quiet. |
| What |
The opening is the first thing you say. Give your name and explain how you know the person you’re toasting. |
| So what |
Guests who don’t know you can place you straight away. That makes the story easier to follow. |
| Field |
Short answer |
| Rule of thumb |
Name and connection |
| Watch for |
Starting the story too soon |
Getting attention comes first and needs no words. The opening begins when you start speaking.
| Field |
Text |
| Identify by |
The one memory or quality you share. |
| What |
The story is one short memory or one positive quality. Pick something the whole room can follow. |
| So what |
One main idea keeps the toast easy to follow. A kind story keeps the attention on the person you’re toasting. |
| Field |
Short answer |
| Rule of thumb |
One short, positive idea |
| Watch for |
Inside jokes and private details |
A roast teases someone for a laugh. A toast celebrates them, so a touch of clean humour is fine, but leave out anything embarrassing or too personal.
| Field |
Text |
| Identify by |
Your final words with your glass raised. |
| What |
The last line invites everyone to join the toast. Raise your glass and say something short, such as “To Sam.” |
| So what |
A clear last line tells the room when to drink. Everyone else raises a glass together. |
| Field |
Short answer |
| Rule of thumb |
End with the invitation |
| Watch for |
Forgetting to raise your glass |
Your last line invites everyone to drink. The reply belongs to the person being toasted, who smiles, nods or says thank you without drinking to themselves.
| Field |
Text |
| Identify by |
The time from your first word to the raised glass. |
| What |
Length is how long you speak. Two to three minutes is the aim for a toast you prepare. |
| So what |
A short toast keeps the attention on the person you’re toasting. Practise out loud to check the time. |
| Field |
Short answer |
| Rule of thumb |
Two to three minutes |
| Watch for |
More than one main idea |
At a casual dinner, a few heartfelt sentences are enough, ending with something like “To our hosts.” Two to three minutes suits a toast you prepare.
| Leave out |
Why |
| Inside jokes |
Most of the room won’t understand them. |
| Embarrassing stories |
Off-limits. The spotlight belongs on the person you’re toasting. |
| Overly personal details |
A toast isn’t the time to overshare. |
| Rambling |
More than one main idea makes the toast hard to follow. |
| Question |
Answer |
| Who goes first? |
The host may give the first toast, at a dinner party or a wedding. If the host doesn’t, a guest may toast the hosts. |
| Do I stand? |
Stand when you give a toast. You can stay seated at a small, informal meal. |
| Do I need a drink? |
You don’t need alcohol. Raise whatever you’re drinking. A sip is enough. |
| What does the person being toasted do? |
The person being toasted stays seated and doesn’t drink. A smile, nod or thank you is enough. |
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